For the woman who is worried about what others think

Have you ever wanted to start a project, or wear a certain dress, or even go to the beach, but then stopped? Have you ever wanted to share a certain experience, a selfie, or even start a business, but then you stopped? In the past, the reason I didn’t wear that dress, post that picture, or start this blog sooner was because I worried what people would say. One of the things I was worried about was that people will make fun of my sentence structures and I lowkey felt like I would never be good enough on this blogging thing.


Many of our desires and dreams are not achieved because we have come to believe that in order to be successful we have to get confirmation from the world. But in reality, the Lord is the one who gives us the validation to be great. I believe the moment we stopped relying on others to give us permission to move forward with our dreams, it’s the moment that we start pursuing those dreams.

I wish we can turn back the clock and go back to being kids and enjoy the freedom of not worrying about what others think. I remember as a kid, if I wanted to dance on the driveway, I will dance on the driveway. If I wanted to run in the rain, wear mismatched clothes, or take a silly picture I just did it. But we can’t turn back the clock, but we can have that child-like freedom back. And it starts with knowing your identity and being confident in who the Lord made you to be.

Some of the identity that the Lord has spoken over us is that:

  1. He has adopted you into his family, and you are never alone.
  2. You are daughter/son and you are dearly and fiercely loved.
  3. The Lord has promised you: love, rest, power, and freedom
  4. You are uniquely made. That means your hair, eyes, nose, freckles, skin color, your sensitive/strong heart, your thoughtfulness, your loving nature, and so much more. The Lord personally and intimately knitted you and oh does he love you so much.
  5. The Lord has empowered you with power and authority because Jesus died on the cross. Meaning you have authority over your mind and thoughts. You do not need to live in bondage but instead live in freedom. Because of Christ, you get to experience peace, love, self-control, and lots of abundant life.

There is so much freedom, confidence, and love in living out the identity the Lord has laid out for us. When we stop allowing people to defines us and let the Lord defines us, we experience so much heaven on earth that it is unreal. So here is some old advice, “ people can never fulfill you, only the Lord can.” Stop looking to people, and start trusting the Lord. Lastly, get to know yourself. I believe you will realize how wonderful, and amazing you are. Get to know yourself enough to the point where other people can never kill your dreams and desires because you know your identity, strength, and purpose comes from.

Keep believing boldly,

-Winnie Warner

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22 thoughts on “For the woman who is worried about what others think

  1. Mihaela Echols

    I used to care too much of what people thought but as time has going I’ve stopped caring more and more. I dont want my kids to grow up seeing a mom apologizing for things i dont need to apologize for or be a certain way just to make people happy.

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  2. angelittleco

    We truly need to be free from people so we can serve people freely 🙂 our service should come from a pure heart , and not to fetch affirmation from people. 🙂 i love this!

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  3. I love this post! I SO used to care what others thought of me, up until about two years ago when I realized that I’m not representing Christ by abiding by other people’s standards. Thanks for this sweet reminder of identity! 🙂

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  4. Dezerai.com

    So wonderful that you stepped out bravely in faith to start your blog! God always rewards obedience & this was a beautiful post!

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  5. Wise words! This is very encouraging for someone who always wonders/worries what others are thinking. This week I was in a youth camp service, and the speaker implored us to stop believing the lies and believe we are who Jesus says we are! Then I come and read your post. Think maybe the Holy Spirit is trying to communicate something to me? 😉

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  6. prescottascoolbreeze

    I’m not a woman but I find myself worried what others will think about me. Sometimes it causes anxiety. Sometimes it’s something stupid like if I’m brushing my teeth nand crazy to my wife I’m thinking: who cares about their teeth more? Does she really brush this long? Is she only doing it cause I’m here? If I brush too sort will she think less of me. But I’m getting better at knowing who I am in Christ and not letting what I know to be false to consume me. Thanks for this

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  7. Thanks for sharing! I think this applies just as much for men as well. I think everyone regardless of gender worries what others think and are governed by that. Thanks for the encouraging words of truth about our identity.

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