There are times throughout seasons in my life where I get to a place where I am confused and don’t know what direction I want to go. In midst of being confused, I started looking at what other others are doing and I think about doing the same thing. In trying to do what others are doing, I completely lost the desire and goals I have for myself. I become lost and unfocused.
Once I realize that I am on this phase I came to the realization that each person has their own desires, wants, and loves. When we stop focusing on those things and let our eyes wander we become unmotivated, have thoughts of quitting, and possibly get lost for a while.
So here I am admitting that I have had times where I have thought “I don’t want to blog” to “I have all kinds of ideas” to “I am not good at doing this” to “I was overthinking everything”. Instead, I needed to focus and do what I do best by writing and everything else will fall into place.
If you find yourself in a place where you are questioning things like:
Do I want to finish my degree? Do I want to stay in this job? Do I want to be in this relationship? Should I pursue that job or that friendship? Should I follow my dreams and desires? Do I want to start writing that blog or that book? Should I say Yes to starting that podcast or do that job overseas?
The list can go on, but I want you to know that it’s okay to have a moment where you are confused and lost. Though at some point, you need to sit down and think through your feelings and come to a place of peace and make that decision with the Lord.
The following are steps you can take to clear out your mind so you can start making decisions.
1. Talk about your confusion. Don’t allow shame and guilt trap you in a place of confusion. There is freedom in sharing (with others, yourself, and most importantly our good good Father). You’re not alone in your confusion and doubt. Wherever you’re struggling with, the Lord is right there with you.
2. Sit down and plan your week with Jesus. Having a clear direction for the week helps you to be less confused and stressed. Play your favorite song, grab your favorite journal & pen and write down some goals and ideas for the week. Tell Jesus about your goals, he is excited to meet with you.
3. Talk to your friends about your life. Share the dreams that you have and the fears that are holding you back. The friends you share with make sure they are the type who would encourage, push, and check on you to make sure you are doing okay and making progress in your plans. Accountability is key and it matters!
4. Be intentional with your emotions and feelings. Learn to process your emotions and feelings in a healthy way. Don’t avoid them, they are not going to work out by themselves.
5. Trust in the dreams and desires the Lord has called you into. It’s not by mistake that you have the dreams that you have. If you are wondering whether it is your dreams but not the Lords dreams then ASK HIM. Dreams and goals are some of the sweetest things to use to develop an even deeper relationship with God. Lean in and dig deep.
I hope this encourages you to get out of the state of being confused to a state of putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. There is power in taking action instead of wishing for those easy-going seasons.
With grace and love, – Winnie:)