It has been a month and few days since I last wrote a blog post. I got to a place where I was confused and didn’t now what direction I wanted to go with my blog. In midst of being confused, I started looking at what other bloggers were doing and I thought about doing the same thing. In trying to do what others were doing, I completely lost the desire I had for writing. I wasn’t focused on the type of writing I love: encouraging others to center their lives in Jesus.
Once I realized I was in this phase I also came to the realization that each one of us has our own desires, wants, and loves. When we stop focusing on those things and let our eyes wander we become unmotivated, have thoughts of quitting, and possibly get lost for a while.
So here I am admitting that for the last month I have thought “I don’t want to blog” to “I have all kinds of ideas” to “I am not good at doing this” to “I was overthinking everything”. Instead, I needed to focus and do what I do best by writing and everything else will fall into place.
If you find yourself in a place where you are questioning things like:
Do I want to finish my degree? Do I want to stay in this job? Do I want to be in this relationship? Should I pursue that job or that friendship? Should I follow my dreams and desires? Do I want to start writing that blog or that book? Should I say Yes to starting that podcast or do that job overseas?
The list can go on, but I want you to know that it’s okay to have a moment where you are confused and lost. Though at some point, you need to sit down and think through your feelings and come to a place of peace and make that decision with the Lord.
The following are steps you can take to clear out your mind so you can start making decisions.
1. Talk about your confusion. Don’t let shame and guilt trap you in a place of confusion for a long time. There is freedom in sharing (with others, yourself, and most importantly our good good Father)
2. Sit down and plan your week with Jesus. Having a clear direction for the week helps you to be less confused.
3. Talk to your friends about your life. Share the dreams that you have and the fears that are holding you back. These friends should encourage, push, and check on you to make sure you are doing okay and making progress in your plans.
4. Be intentional with your emotions and feelings. Don’t avoid them, they are not going to work out by themselves.
5. Trust in the dreams and desires the Lord has called you into. It’s not by mistake. If you are wondering whether it is your dreams but not the Lords dreams also, ask Him. Not only that, think about why it is your dream. Uncover the motives in your heart and see if it is selfish, for money, for fame, etc… If it simply excites you and makes you happy it is probably from the Lord.
I hope this encourages you to get out of the state of being confused to a state of putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. There is power in taking action instead of wishing for those different times/seasons.
With grace and love, – Winnie:)